Adolescents

Being an adolescent today comes with many challenges. It can be tough to parent today's adolescent too. I try my hardest to be team teen while still challenging...supporting, working toward middle ground, discovering...honoring.

It is important to note that while parents sometimes wishfully hope that a therapist can somehow "fix" their teen or their teen's problem, therapy seldom works in that manner. It is much more desirable and sustainable over time if the teen autonomously chooses to problem solve, themselves. Therapy serves as tool that can be used by teens to navigate and implement change; the tool cannot be forced into usage. When there is willingnesseffort, good rapport, good timing, and healthy equipping, the tool is more likely to be used. Great consideration and varying strategy is employed to foster that use, but it is always the choice of the teen.

Teens are required to verbalize a desire and commitment to work with me in therapy, and to complete a writing assignment to move forward in therapy after the first session.

Adolescents permit me to anonymously capture some of their thoughts, emotions, and experiences here; may we all listen with a priority of understanding.

“I don’t want the plan they have for me. The rat race is depressing.”
— Adolescent
“Are you kidding me? My mom is miserable...and she makes everyone in our house miserable too.”
— Adolescent
I’d rather you not talk to my parents cause then I’ll have to watch them lie to you about how they are going to change and be disappointed when they don’t.
— Adolescent
Telling me how I’m going to struggle if I don’t get my crap together is sort of de-motivating don’tcha think?”
— Adolescent
“No I don’t look up to them...my parents hate their jobs, their friends, where they are in life...heck, they might hate each other.”
— Adolescent
No, I *know* they think the worse of me...they lock their doors at night like I’m some sort of psychopath.
— Adolescent
“My step dad sucks...ugh...he’s so old and conservative.”
— Adolescent
Everyone’s supposed to be a Christian and happy and perfect at that school...it’s all fake. I’d never send my kids to my high school.
— Adolescent
They’re right, money can’t buy you happiness...cause if you have it, you’re already happy.
— Adolescent
But he could’ve been the adult in this situation and just [been assertive], I’m acting more like an adult than my dad is.
— Adolescent
“There is no such thing as a teen anymore. You’re either a kid or you’re Kylie Jenner. You know she bought her own mansion when she was like 16 years old.”
— Adolescent
I’m saving my money...I have an idea...I’m going to anonymously give it to my parents.
— Adolescent
They are going on dates and stuff now...[my parents] are funny...but I’m glad.
— Adolescent
“My dad doesn’t think I can do it...he doesn’t say it, but I can tell by how he acts.”
— Adolescent
“I guess I didn’t realize how much I liked him until just now...it kind of sucks.”
— Adolescent
“I just don’t care enough to change.”
— Adolescent
“I just want someone on my team.”
— Adolescent
Yeah, I’ve watched porn...sex Ed is a joke.
— Adolescent
Please Ms. Myia...don’t dab.
— Adolescent
Would you like it more if I said I was going to vape and not use nicotine in it?
— Adolescent
How’d you do that? I can’t believe we just talked about that...something so serious...and I’m okay...I don’t even want to leave here and cut...I’m ready to [go have fun].
— Adolescent
“I want to tell him, your dad isn’t dying so no, you don’t know how I feel! And stop preaching to me about how things were when you were my age!”
— Adolescent
It comes easy to them so they don’t get how hard it is for me. It took me 3 times just to get out of the car and go in to register for classes this semester.”
— Adolescent
“I gave everyone in my house a new name...just because.”
— Adolescent
“I hate you!”
10 min later: “Okay so like I don’t hate you, I’m just angry...there’s a difference.”
— Adolescent